In our house Sadie often does things for Holly that Holly could do for herself. I know that Sadie hit certain milestones earlier than Holly and have assumed that it was because there was no big sibling to do it for her.
I think Holly has started to realise that there are drawbacks to this and, like other things in Holly's life, it is related to yoghurts.
Holly loves yoghurts and Sadie can take them or leave them. Before this week, if I said no to giving Holly a yoghurt she'd get Sadie to do it and I'd see Sadie walking past me with six yoghurts. She'd plonk them down in front of Holly and Holly would just shove her fist through the lids. Yes, this happened more than once and yes, I know I should have put them on a higher shelf in the fridge after the first time.
When Sadie does have a yoghurt she likes the red ones and Holly doesn't like that she doesn't get a choice. This, I believe, is what has prompted Holly to get her own yoghurts this week. She still had to get Sadie to open the utility room door for her but she managed the fridge door and pulling down the yoghurts all by herself.
I know what you're thinking, that I should immediately step in and get the yoghurts for them, snap one off for each of them and get the spoons and sit them down and hand them one each.
I agree! But sometimes I like to see them doing things themselves and I think it's nice that they can communicate things like this to each other and make little decisions and arrangements between them.
Also, in the case of yoghurts, Holly has historically made as much mess with my involvement as without.
This week things are different: Holly can get her yoghurt by taking a pack from the fridge and snapping a couple off, she can peel the lids off, she can get her own spoon (which also involves other pieces of cutlery being liberated at the same time but she can choose a teaspoon from the handful) and she can sit up and eat her yoghurt without a mess. And she gets to have a red one if she wants.
Just when I was thinking every day is the same.